My best friend is Ellen Lillian Lekas.
But I never call her that unless I am really irritated with her, or when I am convincing her to do something that she doesn’t want to do.
This is the true test of best friendship. On top of sharing everything their is to share, you begin to call each other by the same name.
I call her Bud.
She calls me Bud.
Over the years our relationship became more of a lifestyle than a companionship. This lifestyle quickly coined the name, “BudLIFE.”
We have survived some serious friendship-ending circumstances, not to mention relentlessly defying the rules of “girl code.”
But instead of letting the hardships burn bridges, it only kindled the everlasting flame of our friendship.
The Lord has proven to be my provider through my best friend. Let me explain… When I was in my extremely awkward middle school days of frizzy untamed red hair, freckled pail skin, metal covered crooked teeth, chicken legs and smelled like chlorine from the amount of time I spent in the pool… I used to pray for a best friend.
Yes you read that right.
Yeah I had my group of “best friends” that were great and all, but they were so cool, and the had AOL instant messaging, and cell phones, and boys liked them, and their parents let them go to The Hoop dances. I didn’t have any of that. But I didn’t really want it anyways. All I wanted was that one BEST friend. The one that knew everything about you, and still wanted to proclaim to the world that you were their best friend.
I think it’s safe to say that the Lord provided in abundance. So I want to share with thanksgiving all that He has graced me through my Bud.
So here are the 100 benchmarks for best friendship according the the BudLIFE standards. If you meet these standards it’s probablly safe to tack on a “life” after whatever you call each other.
- Ditch out on plans with other people to hang out with each other
- No clothing purchased is your own
- Call each other every SINGLE NIGHT without exceptions (For at least 3 years straight)
- Forget whose socks and underwear are whose
- Birthday/Christmas gift exchanges become and all day event
- Send long sappy goodbye texts when you’re going out of service
- Writing each other letters EVERY SIGNLE day while at camp
- Spend hours Goodwill treasure hunting
- Their parents become equally as disciplinary as your own
- Become responsible for planning everything for your group of friends
- Recieving birthday/christmas gifts from their family
- Expected at each others family events
- Make pancakes and eggs at 2:00 a.m.
- Stay up for weeks at a time to watch seasons of a tv series
- Survive a major boy interference aka “D-day”
- Fight all the time
- Run each other’s errands
- Dream plans to start your own business
- Make pros and con lists together for every life decision
- Discover new coffee shops
- Take road trips
- Have an entire CD case full of mixtapes from them
- Sleep at their house as often as your own
- Have a boyfriend that is easily irritated by your friendship
- Match outfits or dress up randomly
- Read a book together
- Pray together and for each other
- Cry, a lot
- Laugh more
- Rescue and animal and name it
- Carpool everywhere
- Always show up late together
- Speak in coded language that annoys your friends/boyfriends
- Pull pranks together
- Get caught pulling pranks together
- Sneak out
- Get caught sneaking out
- Serve together
- Spend nostalgic holidays together
- Always provide tampons
- Learn or pick up a new hobby that lasts a month tops
- Have a “spot” that no one else knows about
- Go to concerts
- Get up at the butt crack to go skiing, boating, running, biking, ect.
- Supply all the decorations for each others room
- Sleep in a bed way two small for two humans
- Be able to quote an entire movie together
- Make fun of each others flaws
- Get in trouble for being too loud
- Argue about who discovered a song or artist first
- Have at least 10 nick names
- Accumulate a collection of summer bucket lists
- Save way too many useless never publicized selfies stored on your computer
- Have epic matching Halloween costumes (preferably that require you to paint your entire body and corn row your hair)
- Travel somewhere for at least a month together
- Invent a recipe
- Burn a birthday cake that you were making for someone
- Do a competitive sport together
- Date the same boy
- Start a trend
- Be the first contact in each other’s phone (aka there is an “A” before their name in your contacts) in my phone Ellen is “A Bud,” in hers I’m “A B****” we were young….
- Learn new things together
- Sacrifice for each other
- Call each other out
- Do each other’s homework
- “Approve” each other’s boyfriends…husband
- Get really bad sunburns
- Watch the same movies on repeat
- Fail hard together
- Go on unsuccessful double dates
- Find new and exciting places to adventure to
- Share money to buy food, clothes, tickets ext.
- Spend an hour in a store helping each other narrow down what to buy
- Be told you look like each other even though you look nothing alike
- Become each other’s biggest fans
- Sing as loud as possible together without being embarrassed
- Make embarrassing videos Movie 11
- Paint a mural together
- Pass on sickness to one another
- Pick millions of blackberries and eat them (leave some to make cobbler)
- Say we “miss” each other when its been more than a day since we have seen each other
- Do chores for each others parents for money
- Grass stained clothing
- Build forts
- Carpool (especially when your 6 months aren’t up)
- Sit in the car outside each other’s houses for hours
- Have a designated parking spot at each others houses
- Break into each others houses
- Make friends in other states and visit them
- Plant an apple tree
- Do unsuccessful AND successful crafts together
- Be each other’s dates to dances, weddings, events
- Sleep outside in each others back yards more than inside in the summer
- Go to specific restaurants just for one item on the menu
- Talk about boys too much
- Bring each other treats and encouragement during hard times
- Know each others distant relatives
- Brag about them
- Make plans to raise your kids next door to each other
- Tell each other the truth even when it’s hard
What are your thoughts on what it means to be a best friend? Please comment with your thoughts ,or send me and e-mail at [email protected]! I want to create another post that compiles your responses!