*Also posted on Beating50Percent
As I write this, it’s August 1st and wedding season is in full force! This post is for all for you those that are still counting down the days until, “I do.”
Many of my friends (including both very best friend) are getting married or have already gotten married this summer. I have loved sharing with them some creative things to do on their wedding day that are, completely FREE, and have nothing to do with décor, dresses, food, or things that will get thrown away!
So, I wanted to share with you all 9 things that I am so glad I did on my wedding day. These things are not the normal wedding checklist items. However, they are things that are guaranteed to make your wedding day vividly memorable, and the beginning of your marriage exceedingly special.
9 Things That I’m So Glad I Did On My Wedding Day
1. Record a video of yourself praying for your wedding day, and the beginning of your marriage.
Text this video to your fiancé the morning of your wedding! Then, turn your phone on airplane mode for the rest of the day;) The morning of our wedding day I went for a walk from my parent’s house, down to our train trestle (where we started dating, and where we got engaged). I recorded myself praying for our marriage and our wedding day, while I sat in the spot where we fell in love, and got engaged. Rewatching that prayer video has increased my faith, as I have realized and wittness how parts of that prayer have been answered.
2. Write each other letters to be delivered by the groomsmen/bridesmaids (Read prior to ceremony)
Jeremy and I wrote each other wedding day letters on our typewriters (symbolic of when we used to mail each other typewriter letters during our years of long-distance). While we were getting ready/waiting for the ceremony, my maid of honor delivered my letter to Jer, and his best man delivered his letter to me. We both read our letters before our “first look.”
3. Write a letter to your future daughter/son to give them on their wedding day.
When I was writing Jeremy’s letter on our wedding day, I felt compelled to write to my future daughter on her day. I have no idea how I came up with this idea, but it felt like a Holy Spirit nudge, so I decided to take a stab at it. I wanted to articulate to my future daughter, how I felt on the day that I married her father. Whoa. In the letter, I prayed for her future husband, their wedding day, and their marriage.
4. Have your bridesmaids or groomsmen pray over your marriage before the wedding ceremony.
Right before our wedding ceremony, my bridesmaids all gathered around, placed hands on me, and prayed over Jeremy and I, our wedding day, and our life together. This moment assured a calm confidence in me that I carried for the rest of the day.
5. After you walk down the aisle, take a moment to look back at everyone in attendance.
After we walked down the aisle, our wedding officiant told Jeremy and I to turn around and look at all the family and friends gathered together to witness our union. This is such a vivid moment engraved in my memory. Being able to glance over all the faces that had encouraged, supported, and prayed for Jeremy and I during our years of courting, and seeing their smiles of affirmation was an incredible blessing. It made me all the more excited to proclaim my promises to Jeremy, in front of all of them.
6. Take communion together during your wedding ceremony
Before we walked back down the aisle as Mr. and Mrs., we took a moment to eat the bread and drink from the cup. Communion was the first thing that Jeremy and I did together as husband and wife. It was a beautiful moment of recognizing our oneness with Christ, and our new oneness with one another. #braidit We came before our Lord in holy surrender, abundant thanksgiving, and immeasurable joy. We prayed together for the first time as man and wife, and gave thanks to God orchestrating our love story. In that moment, we asked God to continue to be the author of our love story, “till death do us part.”
7. Take a moment during your reception to go to the corner of your wedding venue and watch everyone you love celebrating your union!
Someone recommended that we do this during our wedding reception, and we were so grateful we did! We stood by the barn (corner of our wedding reception) and watched everyone celebrate our marriage. It was a moment that filled us with abundant joy and gratitude. We are so thankful that our wedding photographer captured this moment!
8. Take a selfie video recapping your wedding day.
Before driving to your hotel, or the airport, or wherever you are headed the night of your wedding… pull over and take a quick selfie video recap of your big day! After you drive a few miles away from the tunnel of screaming family and friends, pull over on the side of the road in a safe place. If you are virgins like we were, I know you’re thinking, “What!? Delay getting to the hotel…?!” Trust me, if you waited 22 years, you can wait another 22 seconds. We get a kick out of re-watching our iPhone quality video of us with “just-married” grins, in our wedding attire, sitting in our decorated car and proclaiming joy and thanksgiving.
Watch our video below:)
9. Go somewhere public in your wedding attire after the wedding.
Even if it’s fast food, a gas station or walking from your car to your hotel. It’s just fun to be seen as a couple in public after your wedding!