This past weekend I went to my sister-in-law to be’s bachelorette party at the Oregon coast. It was a riot and we left with good memories, solid conversations, and epic photo evidence. It got me to thinking of allllll the bachelorette parties (including my own) that I’ve been to over the recent years, and what made them a blast or a bust. Through my reflection I came to realize these “9 musts for a bomb bachelorette party. “
1. Healthy Grub
The reality is, every bride becomes more conscious of her eating habits as the big day approaches. She is anxiously anticipating the snacky foods and sugary drinks to accompany her bachelorette party, but she’s secretly hoping for some healthy alternatives as well. To avoid making the bride feel bad about declining the pizza and cake, or the casserole you slaved for hours on… be sure to include a healthy alternative to each meal and snack option.
Healthy breakfast alternatives: smoothies, turkey bacon, and eggs on whole grain toast with avocado.
Healthy lunch alternatives: Tuna fish or chicken salad, chicken lettuce wraps, berries or fresh fruit.
Healthy dinner alternatives: Chicken/fish tacos (allows the bride to choose what she puts in her tacos and the proportion), black bean chipotle burger lettuce wraps with grilled veggies, or big seasonal salad with all of the bride’s favorite things
2. Her signature drink
Ask the bride what her favorite cocktail, beer or wine is, and surprise her with an abundance of it! If the bride gets sick when she drinks wine, or feels bloated with beer, you don’t want her limited options to induce misery. Make sure her drink of choice takes precedence. If you know the bride loves vodka lemonade, spice it up a bit with huckleberry vodka lemonade, mixed berries and lemon wedges! Then make sure to bring some ‘fun’ (or slightly inappropriate) straws to sip on, and cute party cups!;)
3. Sexy lingerie
While on the hunt for the perfect bachelorette gift, go for sexy over cute. The bride is far more inclined to buy the cute undies, and soft loungewear on her own, but probably won’t be buying those black lacy onsies, or strappy silk nightgowns as frequently. This is her chance to collect some more romantic sleepwear for the honeymoon, get her something that will make her feel sexier and more confident. That purple open back lace slip might not seem “her style,” but she’ll surely be excited to put on something new and different for her groom. It’s also fun to make a game out of opening the bachelorette gifts if you’re in the a hotel or someone’s home. One way of doing this is hanging all the lingerie on a wall without her seeing, and then have her guess who gifted what. If she feels comfortable, encourage her to show off her new ensembles for all the bridesmaids to affirm her beauty.
4. Involve the groom
Meet with the groom a few weeks prior to the bachelorette party, and ask him some questions that can be used for “get to know the bride and groom” games, or games that require the bride to know her stuff on the groom. Ask the groom a series of fun, romantic, serious, and hard questions that you can use to have the bridesmaids and the bride guess his answers. You could even go as far as videoing the groom’s responses so the bride can see his reactions and hear his responses verbatim. This is sure to get people laughing. Another creative way of involving the groom might be having him send a list of reasons he is excited to get married, then read that list during the bachelorette party. Evenmore, you could put those reasons on t-shirts that the bridesmaids wear out on the town, or throughout the day if it’s a bachelorette weekend.
5. Exclude the groom
As much as it’s endearing to have the groom be involved in a few games, and gimmicks throughout the bachelorette party, it’s important to keep the bride fully present with her girls, and wedding stress free. Depending on the bride, it might be advantageous to take her phone for the day/weekend, or make sure that the wedding details aren’t discussed in a way that could cause stress.
6. Skip the cliches
Skip the strippers, cock-and-ball donuts, and sex themed everything… Sometimes it’s better for a bride to just have a day or weekend away from all the wedding stress… and not replace that stress with all the potentially embarrassing surprises that are typical of a bachelorette party. It’s likely she just wants to have some time with her girls before she’s married and living with a man for the rest of her life. Let her lead the conversations and bring up certain topics. Most brides have some sort of hidden agenda for what they want to talk about or do during their one (and hopefully only) bachelorette party.
7. The element of surprise
Whether it’s the decor, games, attire, drinks, food, of gifts, there needs to be an element of surprise. The bride needs to have the shock and awe factor. Go out of your way to prepare something that is creative and specific to her. The surprise is likely the one thing she’ll remember decades from now when you’re reminiscing. Some ideas for surprises might include; mother of the bride and groom crashing the bach party, “coincidentally” running into the groom, involving strangers in the games, having the restaurant or bar do something personalized to the bride, ect.
8. Flaunt through photos
Don’t make the bride carry the camera. Take the photo before she asks for a photo to be taken. If there is a photo op, capture it. Better to have more photos than miss evidence of great moments.
9. Embarrass with class
Don’t highlight the bride’s most embarrassing moments. Instead, embarase her with class by using the shock and awe tactic. Avoid embarrassing her with her past, it’s better to embarrass her in the moment. This can easily be done through “the element of surprise”. A good rule of thumb for this is if you wouldn’t appreciate it happening to you at your bach party, it’s likely she won’t either.
Viola! I hope these ideas, suggestions, and insight help you and your bridesmaid gang in planning your next bachelorette party! Cheers to the bride!